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Posted: November 24th, 2022



Teach her that the idea of “gender roles” is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl.

“Because you are a girl” is never a reason for anything. Ever.

I remember being told as a child to “bend down properly while sweeping, like a girl.” Which meant that sweeping was about being female. I wish I had been told simply “bend down and sweep properly because you’ll dean the floor better.” And I wish my brothers had been told the same thing.

There have been recent Nigerian social media debates about women and cooking, about how wives have to cook for husbands. It is funny, in the way that sad things are funny,

that we are still talking about cooking as some kind of marriageability test for women.

The knowledge of cooking does not come

pre-installed in a vagina. Cooking is learned. Cooking-domestic work in general-is a life skill that both men and women should ideally have. It is also a skill that can elude both men and women.

We also need to question the idea of mar- riage as a prize to women, because that is the basis of these absurd debates. If we stopped conditioning women to see marriage as a prize, then we would have fewer debates about a wife needing to cook in order to earn that prize.

It is interesting to me how early the world starts to invent gender roles. Yesterday I went to a children’s shop to buy Chizalum an out- fit. In the girls’ section were pale creations in washed-out shades of pink. I disliked them.

. 1 ad outfits in vibrant shades ‘rhe boys’ section 1

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of blue. Because I thought blue would be ador- able against her brown skin-and photograph better-I bought one. At the checkout counter, the cashier said mine was the perfect present for the new boy. I said it was for a baby girl. She

looked horrified. “Blue for a girl?” I cannot help but wonder about the clever

marketing person who invented this pink-blue binary. There was also a “gender-neutral” sec- tion, with its array of bloodless grays. “Gender-

neutral” is silly because it is premised on the idea of male being blue and female being pink and “gender-neutral” being its own category. Why not just have baby clothes organized by

age and displayed in all colors? The bodies of

male and female infants are similar, after all. I looked at the toy section, which was also

arranged by gender. Toys for boys are mostly active, and involve some sort of doing-t rains, cars-and toys for girls are mostly passive and are overwhelmingly doll s. I was struck by this .


1 had not quite realized how early society starts

to invent ideas of what a boy should be and what a girl should be.

I wished the toys had been arranged by type, rather than by gender.

Did I ever tell you about going to a U.S. mall with a seven-year-old Nigerian girl and her

mother? She saw a toy helicopter, one of those things that fly by wireless remote control, and she was fascinated and asked for one. “No,” her mother said. “You have your dolls.” And she re- sponded, “Mummy, is it only dolls I will play with?”

I have never for gotten that. Her mother meant well, obviously. She was well versed in the ideas of gender roles-that girls play with dolls and boys with helicopters. I wonder now, wistfully, if the little girl would have turned out to be a revolutionary engineer, had she been given a chance to explore that helicopter.

If we don’t place the straitjacket of gender


roles on young children, we give them space to reach their full potential. Please see Chiza- lum as an individual. Not as a girl who should be a certain way. See her weaknesses and her

strengths in an individual way. Do not measure her on a scale of what a girl should be. Mea- sure her on a scale of being the best version of hersel£

A young Nigerian woman once told me that she had for years behaved “like a boy”-she liked football and was bored by dresses-until her mother forced her to stop her “boyish” in- terests. Now she is grateful to her mother for helping her start behaving like a girl. The story made me sad. I wondered what parts of herself she had needed to silence and stifle, and I won- dered about what her spirit had lost, because what she called “behaving like a boy” was sim- ply behaving like herself.

Another acqu · a1ntance, an Amer.ican living


. tl,e Pacific Northwest, once told me that 1 n · when she took her one-year-old son to a baby

play group, where babies had been brought by their mothers, she noticed that the mothers

of baby girls were very restraining, constantly telling the girls “don’t touch” or “stop and be

nice,” and she noticed that the baby boys were encouraged to explore more and were not re- strained as much and were almost never told to “b . “H h h e nice. er t eory wast at parents uncon- sciously start very early to teach girls how to be, that baby girls are given less room and more rules and baby boys more room and fewer rules.

Gender roles are so deeply conditioned in us that we will often follow them even when they chafe against our true desires, our needs, our happiness. They are very difficult to unlearn,

. . . t to make sure that and so 1t 1s important to ry Chizalum reJ· ects them from the beginning.

· h ‘d f I d f letting her internalize t e t ea o nstea o ·

gender roles, teach her self-reliance. Tell her that it is important to be able to do for her- self and fend for herself Teach her to try to fix physical things when they break. We are quick to assume girls can’t do many things. Let her try. She might not fully succeed, but let her try. Buy her toys like blocks and trains-and dolls, too, if you want to.


Beware the danger of what I call Feminism

Lite. It is the idea of conditional female equal- ity. Please reject this entirely. It is a hollow, ap- peasing, and bankrupt idea. Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You either are or you are not. You either believe in the full

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equa 1ty o men and women or you do not.

Feminism Lite uses analog,.ies 1 ·k··” “h . , 1 e e 1s the


Teach her that the concept of “gender roles” is absurd. Never tell her she shouldn’t or shouldn’t do something just because she’s a girl.

It’s never a good justification to do anything just because you’re a girl. Ever.

As a child, I recall being encouraged to “bend down correctly while sweeping, like a female.” As a result, sweeping was all about being a woman. “Bend down and sweep properly so you’ll dean the floor better,” I wish I had been advised. And I wish the same thing had been said to my brothers.

Recent Nigerian social media disputes concerning women and food have focused on how wives are expected to prepare for their husbands. It’s amusing in the way that tragic things are amusing.

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