Part 1: setting the scene

Applied Final Project- “Your Lot in Life” Assignment

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You will be writing a paper about one of these scenarios, or a slight variation thereof:

1. You are expecting your first baby and are thinking about sleeping arrangements. You have heard of the concept of “the family bed” and are considering having the baby sleep with you and your spouse.
2. You are expecting your first child and are interested in breastfeeding your baby. You would also like to return to work relatively soon. You have to decide how valuable breastfeeding is and whether you can work and breastfeed.
3. Your 12-year-old step-daughter tells you that you are not her real mother (or father) and can’t tell her what to do.
4. You are extremely concerned because your 11-year-old son has been suspended from school numerous times for fighting. He just can’t seem to get along with other children.
5. You and your spouse have just decided to divorce. Your 7-year-old is very upset about this change.
6. Your parents were over for dinner the other night. Your 6-year-old did not want to eat the beans you served, or the fish. Your parents said that you should have insisted that he/she should have had some, and that you should insist on this as a regular practice in your home.
7. Your 9-year-old is frequently sad and feels that nobody likes him/her. A friend has just suggested that maybe he/she is suffering from childhood depression.
8. Your daughter is having a great deal of difficulty in school. You think she may have learning disabilities. You would like to get the school system to evaluate her and help plan a program for her.
9. Your 2-year-old has not begun speaking yet.
10. Your 6-year-old still wets the bed almost every night.
11. Your 6-year-old has just been diagnosed with  Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).
12. Your 9-year-old daughter has begun menstruating and you are concerned about the effects of early puberty on her social development.
13. Your children are all adults and have moved out of the family home. Your youngest daughter is 24, a single parent, and has just asked to move back into your home because she has been laid off at work.
14. Your five-year-old’s birthday is just one month before the age cut-off for kindergarten. You are considering having him/her start school a year later.
15. Your son/daughter has always struggled with school. Your third grader’s teacher has just suggested that he/she repeat the third grade.
16. Your 12-year-old daughter who has never had a weight or eating problem is now worrying that she is too fat. The mother of one of her friends has just told you that she thinks your daughter may be bulimic.
17. You have noticed behavioral changes in your 14-year-old and are concerned that he/she may be using drugs or alcohol.
18. You are expecting your first child. You and your spouse are beginning the search for good daycare.
19. You are considering home-schooling your child. You need to get enough information to actually start home-schooling your child.
20. Your 14-year-old daughter accidentally leaves her purse open in the family room and you see a package of birth-control pills.
21. You have discovered that your 12-year-old has been downloading and viewing pornography on the Internet.  
22. Your 16-year-old has decided to go on a diet.  While you want your child to be healthy, you notice that s/he frequently skips meals, exercises 3-4 times daily, and refers to herself/himself as “fat”. 
23. While putting away laundry, you find a box of condoms in your 15-year-old’s room.
24. Your 17-year-old brings her/his friends to the house frequently.  You notice that many of these friends are openly homosexual. 
25. It is February.  Your 18-year-old, who is graduating in May, has not completed any college applications or expressed any plans for life after high school.
26. You overhear a conversation your 14-year-old is having and every other word out of his/her mouth is profanity.
27. You find a bottle of vodka under your 18-year-old’s bed. 
28. Your 16 year old comes into the house after attending a party, smelling of cigarettes and marijuana.
29. Your 15-year-old is student council president, captain of the lacrosse team, plays the piano, teaches Sunday school, volunteers at the local soup kitchen, is taking 5 Advanced Placement courses, and is a member of National Honor Society.
30. Your 18-year-old insists on marrying his/her high school sweetheart upon graduation, although receiving several full scholarships to various colleges, as well as several promising internships.  In addition, the sweetheart is a LOSER!
31. Your 17-year-old announces that s/he is about to become a parent.
32. You and your spouse do not agree about whether parents can argue in front of their children. 

  Part 1: Setting the Scene 

Choose one of the Lot in Life scenarios. Do not choose a scenario that you have already experienced as a parent. That defeats the purpose of the 3-part assignment.

You should elaborate on the scenario by writing a 1-2 page letter to a relative or close friend, or as a diary entry, from the perspective of a parent writing about his or her child. Your letter/diary should explain what happened, what issues you will look into and research, and perhaps  some thoughts as to how you might approach the situation. If the scenario you have chosen is touched on in your textbook you can mention what you are learning in the class you are taking. You may slightly alter the scenario to fit your own situation if it is “true” for you. It is not necessary to submit your selection to me, unless it more than slightly different from any of those suggested.

Your paper should have a cover sheet that lists your name, the BEHS section number, the scenario you have chosen (not the number), and finally, whether or not the Lot in Life is true or not true for you. It is “true” if it is something you are currently dealing with or likely to face in the future; “not true” if it is a hypothetical scenario for you.

You must read the guidelines